You were teammates. Now you're opponents. Let's fix that.
This is therapy for couples who still care but can't stop hurting each other. We'll work on the patterns keeping you stuck, teach you skills that actually work when emotions run high, and help you remember why you chose each other in the first place.
when love isn't the problem
You fight—but you repair. You don't avoid conflict, you navigate it. When things get heated, you have actual tools to use instead of just saying things you'll regret. You feel like teammates again. You're facing life together instead of keeping score against each other.
You remember why you chose this person. Not because the hard stuff disappeared, but because you learned how to handle it without destroying what you've built.
Here's What Your Relationship Could Look Like
Ready for your life to change?
Here's what might be happening in your relationship right now
Every small thing explodes into a fight. You're walking on eggshells. A simple comment about dinner or schedules turns into a blowup. You rehearse how you're going to bring up the dishwasher before you even open your mouth.
You've turned into scorekeepers. Every disagreement is about winning, not solving. You miss the days when you could just talk without running every sentence through a mental filter first.
You know exactly how the fight will go before it even starts. Same topics, same hurt, same lack of resolution. You could script it at this point—and nothing ever actually changes.
Or maybe you've stopped fighting altogether. Because you've given up. You're polite roommates. You've started texting him about dinner plans instead of just asking when he gets home.
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From the outside, you might look fine. But inside your relationship, you're exhausted. You love each other—that's not the question. The question is whether love is enough when you don't have the skills to navigate conflict, repair hurt, or break the cycles you're stuck in.
Understanding WHY you fight doesn't fix the fighting. You need to interrupt the patterns in real time. You need skills that work when you're angry, hurt, defensive, or completely shut down.
I've seen people who can run a company fall apart trying to ask their partner to take out the trash without it becoming a referendum on their entire marriage.
That's where the Gottman Method comes in.
I get it.
Couples Therapy using the Gottman Method
We'll identify the four patterns that predict relationship failure (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling), interrupt them in real time, and give you tools to fight fair and repair well.
What you get:
60- or 90-minute sessions
Research-backed Gottman Method techniques
Real-time pattern interruption and skill-building
Homework and practice between sessions
Tools that work when emotions are high, not just when you're calm
You'll learn the difference between productive conflict and destructive patterns. We'll teach you how to raise issues without criticism, how to listen when you're defensive, and how to repair after a fight instead of just hoping it blows over.
You didn't fall in love with an adversary—you fell in love with a friend. We'll use the Gottman framework to rebuild that foundation: the small moments of connection, the inside jokes, the turning toward each other instead of away. We'll assess where your friendship got lost and how to bring it back.
Here's What You'll Learn
How to Have Conflict Without Destroying Each Other
How to Rebuild Your Friendship
goal one
goal two
You'll learn how to turn toward each other instead of away. How to respond to bids for connection. How to be emotionally present even when you're stressed, tired, or would rather shut down.
Emotional Attunement Skills
goal four
The four patterns that predict divorce: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. You'll learn to recognize them in real time and replace them with repair attempts that actually work.
How to Interrupt the Four Horsemen
Goal three
LET'S BREAK it DOWN
how it works
We'll start by understanding your history together, what brought you in now, and what patterns are keeping you stuck. I'll help you see the cycle you're in and why it keeps repeating.
First: We assess where you are
This isn't just talk therapy. We'll practice new ways of communicating right here in session. I'll interrupt destructive patterns as they happen and teach you what to do instead.
Then: We build skills in real time
You'll get homework. You'll try new skills at home. We'll troubleshoot what worked and what didn't. Change happens through repetition, not just insight.
Finally: You practice between sessions
Stop having the same fights on repeat and actually resolve issues for good
Build a system for repairing after conflict instead of letting resentment pile up
Feel emotionally connected again instead of like polite roommates
Learn what to say and do when emotions run high—not just when you're calm
Create shared meaning and remember why you chose each other in the first place
Feel like teammates facing life together instead of opponents keeping score
If you want this to be the year that you *finally*:
let's get started
HEY THERE!
I'm Carrie, Your New Guide To Emotional Health
I became a therapist because I believe relationships are worth fighting for. Not toxic relationships, not abusive relationships—but relationships where both people still care and are willing to do the work.
After years of working with women individually I kept noticing the same pattern.
So much of what they were carrying—the resentment, the loneliness, the feeling of being unseen—lived in their closest relationships.
We'd work on boundaries, communication, asking for what they need. But sometimes the conversation needs to happen with both people in the room.
In couples therapy I use the Gottman Method, which means I use research-backed techniques—not just theories about what might work, but actual data on what predicts relationship success or failure. The approach is structured, skills-based, and practical. You'll leave sessions with tools you can use that night, not just insight about why you're stuck.
This type of couples therapy can help because...
It's research-backed, not just advice
The Gottman Method is based on 40+ years of research with thousands of couples. We know what predicts divorce and what predicts lasting happiness. This isn't guesswork—it's science applied to your specific relationship.
You get real-time skill-building, not just insight
We don't just talk about what's wrong. We practice new patterns right here in session. I'll interrupt the old dance as it happens and teach you a new one. You'll leave with tools you can use that night.
It focuses on repair, not perfection
You're not going to stop fighting. That's not the goal. The goal is to fight without contempt, repair quickly, and build emotional connection that can withstand conflict. Healthy couples fight—they just fight well.
This is for you if:
You still remember what it felt like to like each other
One of you is already halfway out the door and not willing to engage
You're both showing up—maybe resentful, maybe exhausted, but you're here
There's active violence or abuse in the relationship or Someone is maintaining an affair they won't end
You're ready to learn actual skills, not just vent for an hour about who's right
It's probably not for you if...
You want to focus on individual issues rather than the relationship patterns
You can keep hoping things will magically get better. You can keep having the same fight with different words. Or you can learn the skills that actually interrupt the patterns—the research-backed tools for fighting fair, repairing well, and rebuilding the friendship you lost somewhere between jobs, kids, and life.
A year from now, you'll wish you started today.
pricing and options
90-minute initial session
$400
This is our first session together. We'll assess where you are, understand your history together, identify the patterns keeping you stuck, and create a plan for our work together.
intake session
90-minute sessions
$375 per session
For couples who need time to work through patterns, practice skills in real time, and process without feeling rushed. This is where the real work happens.
deep dive sessions
60-minute sessions
$250 per session
For couples who've done deeper work and need periodic check-ins, or who want to address a specific issue without a full intensive session.
maintenance sessions
How long does couples therapy take?
Most couples attend for 3-6 months, though some see significant shifts in just a few sessions. It depends on how long you've been stuck in these patterns and how consistently you practice new skills between sessions.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if my partner doesn't want to come?
I work with couples as a couple. If your partner isn't willing to attend, I can see you for individual therapy—but relationship change requires both people in the room.
Is it too late for us?
If you're both still willing to show up and try, it's not too late. The couples who don't make it are the ones where one person has already emotionally exited the relationship. If you're here reading this, you're not there yet.
What's the difference between Gottman Method and regular couples therapy?
Gottman Method is research-based and highly structured. We're not just talking about feelings—we're identifying specific destructive patterns, interrupting them in real time, and building concrete skills you can use immediately.
What if we're not married yet—is this still for us?
Absolutely. In fact, building these skills before marriage is one of the smartest things you can do. Many couples come in during engagement to get ahead of patterns before they become entrenched.
How do I know if we need couples therapy or if we should just break up?
If you're asking this question, therapy is worth trying. The couples who should break up are the ones with active abuse, total contempt, or where one person has completely checked out. If you're both willing to try, there's hope.
Will you tell us if you think we should break up?
Honestly? Most couples wait way too long to get help. They come in when they're already at contempt. If you're here before that, you've got better odds than most.
I don't work directly with insurance companies as an in-network provider. If you want to use out-of-network benefits, I'll provide you with the paperwork you'll need to submit to your insurer for potential reimbursement.
Do you take insurance?
Still on the Fence?
let's talk
You're not sure this will work. Fair enough. But you know what definitely doesn't work? Doing nothing and hoping it gets better on its own.